27 Aug Stop Working So Hard
How to Stop Working So Hard: Embrace the Wealth You’ve Built
From security to enjoyment
You’ve worked hard, built success, and set yourself up for security. Maybe you’ve even been lucky along the way and done a lot better than you had imagined. However, for many business owners, the habit of saving and protecting money has become so ingrained that spending it feels difficult, uncomfortable, or even “wrong.” They just don’t know how to stop saving and start spending. They also don’t know how to stop working so hard
This is where I can help. This is not by telling you to spend recklessly, but by gently uncovering the beliefs and habits that keep you stuck in frugality and a pattern of always working. This will help you create a healthier, more balanced relationship with money and work. A relationship that allows for enjoyment as well as security.
Recognise the patterns behind working so hard
Often this is not just about numbers; it’s emotional. For many, habits of thrift were shaped by earlier experiences of scarcity, fear of losing it all, or a sense that “enough is never enough.” We may have taken on our family’s pattern and attitudes towards money, or we may have rebelled against them altogether. Even in our own journey we may have created blueprints that are now impacting on our ability to enjoy the fruits of our labours.
Therapeutic coaching with me helps to unpick these unconscious stories so you can see clearly whether you are making money and work decisions out of genuine choice, or out of old patterns that no longer serve you.
Redefine what working and security mean
Working doesn’t have to mean never stopping. It can mean making dfferent investments in joy, health, and connection as well as work. This could mean:
I often help clients reframe work so that they can enhance their life and relationships, but at the same time, not diminish their security. Of course, practical and real world limitations and circustances are always front of mind.
Stop working gently
If loosening the compulsion feels overwhelming, start small. I often encourage clients to try small, safe experiments, and then reflect on how it felt. Over time, these become stepping stones to larger, more fulfilling choices.
Work through guilt and resistance
For many high achievers, guilt is the biggest obstacle. Working me provides a safe space to explore and release these feelings. I work with clients to shift from guilt to gratitude: recognising that enjoying your resources is part of the legacy you leave behind and enjoy today. Finding time to do that is as important as creating them.
Align with your values
Ultimately, the aim isn’t to work for work’s sake. It’s to use your resources in a way that aligns with your deepest values, whether that’s travel, creativity, supporting family, or leaving a positive mark in the world. We connect those dots, so that every hour spent working spent feels like a conscious, values-driven choice.
From accumulation to celebration
You’ve may have already built the security. Now it’s time to embrace the celebration. If you’re still on the way, let’s look at enhancing that process and making it a well-rounded one for you. Book a chat with me here.
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